…is a list of categorized “M” questions designed for one who is on the quest to grow as a whole person.  To get maximum benefit from these questions, consider 4 dimensions of the growth process:

  • Dialogue– Be open with your answers as you talk to yourself or a friend.
  • Discovery -Be prepared to explore and uncover some new things about yourself. Hold those new findings humbly and void of judgment
  • Determination – When we grapple with hard questions, it is easy to sidestep them. A quest demands courage and perseverance. Don’t give up on your quest!
  • Destination – Growth is your destination!

The questions require an open and ready attitude and are arranged under four categories:

Master (relationship with God, the Master),

Mankind (relationship with others),

Myself (relationship with my outer life),

Microscope (relationship with my inner life).

Click the “+” sign next to each M to view the questions.


  • Am I thankful for gifts?  Name a few.  
  • Am I aware of signs of goodness throughout my day? Name some from the last 7 days.  
  • How do I express thanks for them?  
  • Have I recently observed something so inspiring that it led me to say, “Wow!” ?  What was it? 
  • In what ways can I share these  discoveries with others?
  • On a 1 – 5 scale (difficult – easy) how easy is it for me to settle down and be still?  If my # is low, what are the factors that have made it so?  What could I do to develop a more meditative heart?  
  • Am I regularly praying, reading and meditating on passages from the Bible and/or other significant books?  If so, what are some passages that have been the most meaningful and why? 
  • Am I listening to uplifting music?
  • Am I developing a wholesome soundtrack for my soul?  If not, how could I begin to do so?
  • What are the first three songs that come to mind?
  • Do any of them have helpful, hopeful lyrics?  What are they?
  • Am I memorizing Scripture portions? Which ones?
  • Do I recite them to myself and to others when appropriate?
  • What are the 4 – 5 passages that have been meaningful to me that I could commit to memory?  Why is each one so important?
  • Am I memorizing other key quotes that have inspired me?  
  • Are there any personal issues that I have not been able to figure out? (Relational, vocational, spiritual, etc.) What are they? Can I do anything about them?
  • How does this make me feel? How do I cope with this?
  • Is there something I need to change as I deal with this issue? (My perspective, attitude, actions?)
  • How about societal issues? What can I do about them?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5 how effectively am I coping with the mystery in my life?


  • What words described my marriage a year ago?  Describe it.  Is there any change?  Better or worse?  In what ways? What can I do about it?  When will I start?
  • Am I communicating honestly and regularly with my spouse?  With my children?
  • How much focused time do I give to my spouse?  To my children?
  • Am I withholding anything from my spouse which I must tell him/her?  If so, when will I tell him/her?
  • Do we have regular date nights as a couple?  When is our next date night?  What will we do?
  • What are my gifts, talents and skills? How am I using them to serve others? Give a recent example.
  • What part does prayer play in my life?
  • When I say, “I’m praying for you” how do I follow through?
  • How do I offer a helping hand to both the friend and the stranger in practical ways?
  • Things could be worse!” How have I been shown mercy?
  • How do I express thanks for that?
  • How do I overlook faults in myself when I judge others? What excuses do I make for myself? How can I offer the same mercy to others?
  • In my dealings with others, if Justice is #1 and Mercy is #5, how do I rank myself?
  • How can I grow in mercy?
  • How am I driven by the Fatal Four Words – “What Will People Think”?
  • How am I adjusting my behavior to make others think better of me?
  • How does the opinion of others impact me?
  • What new perspective can help me take off the mask? On a scale of 1 to 5,  how close am I to taking off the mask?
  • How am I regularly engaging with people?  In general, how do I feel when I do so?  (See Six Steps To Engage blog entry.)
  • How am I isolating from others?  If so, what are my reasons?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5, how engaged am I with others?
  • In what ways can I become more engaged?
  • Do I have a circle of close friends? Why or why not?
  • What do I look for in a good friend?
  • How do I show appreciation to my friend(s)?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5,  I am doing well as a good friend. In what ways?
  • Do I have a confidant with whom I can be vulnerable? Who?
  • When will I meet him/her?  (Consider using “Mprove” as a springboard for engaging.)  
  • How can I find a confidant?
  • Am I being a good example to others? How so?
  • What people have been good examples to me? In what specific ways?
  • What is (was) it about them that had the most impact on me: Appearance, Words, Attitude, Behaviors, etc?
  • Could I be a better example? It what ways? What would that require me to do?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5, how satisfied am I with my own example to others?
  • Name three people who live with significance. How do they do that?
  • Does my life have meaning?
  • Do I feel I am playing a significant part in the human race; in the lives of people around me? In what ways am I doing that?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5, do I live in significance?


  • Do I depend too much on food and drink to make me feel better? If so, give an example.
  • If I am taking prescription medication, am I doing so properly?
  • Am I over-dependent on any non-prescribed substances? What are they?
  • Am I regularly exercising?
  • What is my fitness regime? Is it enough?  
  • If I don’t exercise regularly, why not?
  • When was my last check-up? How was it?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5, how fit am I?


  • Am I eating healthy things?
  • Am I overeating? Am I under eating?
  • How am I demonstrating discipline in my eating habits?


  • How am I saying wholesome, helpful things?
  • Have I said anything I regret?  If so, should I do anything about that?
  • Am I keeping my promises?
  • How am I controlling the things I say?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5 how encouraging are my words?
  • Do I budget my money?
  • Am I paying my debts?
  • In what ways am I saving?
  • How do I make decisions about significant purchases?
  • How am I supporting those in need?
  • How can I be more generous?
  • On a scale from 1 to 5, how generous am I?
  • Do I have any mental, emotional, relational, or physical pain?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5 how patient am I in enduring pain?  Does it fluctuate dramatically? If so, why?
  • As a result of my pain, how has my view of the world and of God changed?
  • If I were told that the pain would be permanent, what are three prominent feelings that would surface?
  • I have no pain now, but is there anything I can do now to prepare myself for it in the future?
  • Am I on time for my appointments?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5, how well do I manage my time?
  • What are time drainers in my schedule?
  • What can I do to gain better control of my time?
  • What scheduling strategies have worked well?
  • Do I give significant others ample and focused time?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5, what is my “ZzzQ” in quality and quantity?  
  • How many hours of sleep am I getting at night?
  • Am I a “toss ‘n turner”?
  • If I awaken at night for more than 30 minutes, how do I use my time?
  • What keeps me awake? Anxiety, stress, caffeine, crying babies, pain, etc.?
  • What can I do to experience more peace and relaxation?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5, how clear am I on my life’s purpose? What is it? 
  • How will I determine my mission?
  • Am I satisfied with this? What steps am I taking now to fulfill that mission? 
  • Are there any reasons to re-think my mission?
  • Do I feel confused, perplexed by a “mess” in my life?
  • What can I do to clean up the part over which I have control?  
  • When and how will I do that?
  • What can I do to grow a hopeful mindset about the mess in my life?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5 how confident am I that I can straighten up the areas of need in my life?
  • Do I feel I have enough time to do what I need to do each day?
  • On a scale of 1(constantly) –5(never),  how often do I feel rushed?
  • Do I feel a need for more space in my schedule?
  • If so, how can I create it?
  • What positive routines do I have in my life? Should I add any?
  • Am I consistent? 
  • In the places where I am inconsistent, what specific steps could I take to make them more habitual?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5, am I marching forward and creating healthy habits in areas of my life? (Give an example)
  • What point do I want to make with my life?  
  • What difference will my life make?
  • What will my legacy be?
  • What do I want people to say at my funeral?
  • How am I developing my message?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5, how satisfied am I with the message of my life?


  • How am I feeling emotionally? 
  • On a scale of 1 – 10, where would I rank myself today?   (see the detailed scale below)
  • How long have I been at that level? Is that good or not?

** Scale

1 Suicidal
2 Despairing
3 Depressed, Angered
4 Sad, Feeling low
5 Flat – Neither depressed nor joyful
6 Hopeful
7 Confident, Satisfied, Happy
8 Joyous, energetic
9 Hyper, bubbly
10 Manic, out of control

  • What things or thoughts lower/raise my number?
  • How can I achieve balance?
  • Am I thinking about the right things?
  • Am I overthinking things?
  • Do I experience mental clutter? How do I deal with it and/or unhealthy recurring thoughts?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5, how healthy is my self-talk?
  • What is the tape that is playing in my mind? Should I change it? If so, how?


  • On a scale of 1 to 5, am I doing things for the right reasons?
  • What are my key motivators?
  • How am I motivated by love in my actions?
  • How important is getting recognition?
  • How can I live more nobly?
  • Am I keeping my eyes off porn and other online or print trash?  
  • Am I refusing the 2nd look at a tempting person, video, picture etc?
  • Am I having unhealthy fantasies?
  • Do I have an obsession over online gaming?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5, how is my morality?
  • What can I do to improve that number?
  • Am I procrastinating?
  • What must I do in the next 5 days that I am not motivated to do?
  • Am I responding to valid, inner promptings?
  • What things are getting in the way of accomplishing my life goals?
  • What can I do to overcome my inertia?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5 how well am I completing my tasks?
  • Do I take time to ponder significant ideas? If so, how do I do that?
  • What do I do with ideas that come to mind?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5 how effectively do I record my thoughts?
  • In what ways can I improve my thinking process?
  • Do I have any words/phrases that I say often, in certain situations?  What are they?
  • How are they helping/hurting me?  Do they express frustration, insight, goodwill, faith?
  • Would I mind posting my mantras on Facebook or Twitter?  If not, why not?
  • Consider a replacement for the poor ones. What would they be?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5, how healthy are my mantras?
  • Do I have someone who regularly gives me advice?
  • Who are the people to whom I give permission to speak into my life? How have I applied their advice?
  • What do I look for in a good mentor?
  • What steps will I take to find one?
  • Am I a mentor to anyone?  How can I become one?
  • What steps am I taking to be more teachable?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5, how am I growing as a life-long learner?